Below are some simple tips that may help:
- Try to get at least half an hour a day me time as often as possible every day if it is possible. All mums need a little space to themselves it is not a crime
- Try to get as much rest as you can.
- Ask for help with the house work, most partners or families will not help if you don't ask, they don't want to offend or interfere.
- Try to get as much fresh air as possible, go for little walks with the baby
- Try to get help with the feeding routine if you are breast feeding then express the milk and let someone else feed them this is especially good at night as being tired worsens the symptoms.
- Try to be flexible, e.g. with sleep times, feeding times etc - it's less stressful for you and your baby.
- Sometimes its hard but try to see all the amazing things about your child just look at them and remember that they are a little miracle.
- Above all else give yourself a break, new mums are often their own worst critic, just remember that there is no such thing as a perfect mum.
- Go to mother and baby groups, meeting other woman in the same position as you will give you a chance to share skills and experiences and to realise you are not alone. Some of our mum don't enjoy these clubs because the mums have been competitive and false but if you feel that try another group, most are great and you can find life long friends
Above all to get some emotional and practical support try to speak to your partner, family or to a mid wife or a G.P
If your symptoms are severe there is no point in ignoring them or trying to be brave they will only get worse as time goes on. The first thing to do is to admit how you are feeling and then tell someone who can help, the first step is often the hardest but once you take that step you are on the road to recovery. There is no shame is admitting how you are feeling you are suffering from an illness like any other. Your child needs a mum who feels well and for that to happen you will need help.
